have decided who owns the problem, there are certain skills that are
appropriate for application to the problem. Following are the skills
listed under the problem ownership category.
on who owns the problem, there are specific parenting skills that are
the most effective. Read the following explanation of skills under each
problem ownership category so you become familiar with each skill. They
are listed in the same order as presented in Step Two.
each category, discipline methods are presented from the least powerful to
the most powerful. Just because a discipline method is not as powerful
doesnít mean it isnít the most effective method to use. They all have
their advantages and limitations. The least powerful method that
accomplishes the task is the most efficient. Learning all of these
methods will help you become a more effective parent.
these discipline methods is a skill. Some of these skills you will
already be very familiar with and know. Others, you will not be as
familiar with. You can learn one skill and
practice it until you have developed it before moving to the next, or
you can mix and match as needed. Remember that learning takes
time. Learning these skills is like learning to swim. You
learn by doing. Understanding the skill is important, but there is no
substitute for doing it. Most skills will feel uncomfortable at first.
You will make mistakes, and that is ok. Mistakes are a part of the
learning process. You canít learn most worthwhile things without making
yourself some credit for working on new skills and give yourself some
grace when you make mistakes. Being able to make mistakes opens up all
kinds of doors for learning new things. It can also make life much more
fun. So practice the skills and as you become more proficient, you will
get to know your Child/Teen much better. The more you know them, the
more you can enjoy them. Enjoying your Child/Teen is the most precious
gift you can give them.
and applying these skills can enhance your parenting immensely. Being
effective in parenting is one of the most fulfilling experiences in
life. These skills can help you achieve that experience.
some parenting challenges that need skills in limit setting, and some
that do not. Discipline is a broader concept than just setting limits.
Providing support is another aspect of parenting that is not
discussed often enough. In e-ParentCoach, you will be presented with skills that
involve either/or and both aspects in the skill. Each skill has a
purpose so that we can Parent on Purpose and reach our parenting goals.
Additional information is provided to give you the knowledge to
succeed. This information is made available for you as you move through
the Parenting Maze.
need additional help with a live Coach, you can call Earl Friesen, M.A.
at (866) 471-1220
see Live Coaching