Although you may have educated yourself on parenting in various ways, many parents are still frustrated about knowing what to do with a specific parenting challenge.  E-ParentCoach is designed to coach you with specific problems unique to your particular family and situation and to be a ready resource you can rely on.

 

Introduction To e-ParentCoach.com

 

e-ParentCoach.com is a Three-Step Program designed to help you deal with the most common parenting problems.  You will be moving through the following steps.

STEP ONE: Defining the Problem.  In this step you will fill out a short checklist.  This may be all that is needed in this step.  At the bottom of the four rows, there is a Fast Track Button that will take you to where you need to go for Step Two.  If you do not want to go on the fast track, you can go to Step Two by clicking Step Two in the Side Bar.

STEP TWO: Determine Problem Ownership.  This step is very important.  It will help you understand the problem from the standpoint of boundaries.  The issue of boundaries helps us understand our function in dealing with the problem.

STEP THREE:  Determine Which Skill to Use.  This skill is the application phase.  Here you will have choices of skills to use that are appropriate for each category of problem ownership.  Each skill provides a way you can address the problem effectively.

 

There are two ways to move through this process.  The longest way is to go through it step-by-step.  You do this by clicking the Step you want to go to on the Side Bar.  This gives you the most information and clarifies the process as a whole.  This is the best way to go through the Three Steps the first time.  The second way is to go directly to the Fast Track.  The Fast Track begins in Step One.   At the bottom of the checklists, there is a button that takes you to the Problem Ownership Category for that type of problem.  This way, you donít have to go through all of Step Two.  Then, at the end of Step Two, you can go to Step Three, which has the skills you can use to address the parenting challenge.

Once you become familiar with the three steps you can move quickly through each step.

 

Scripture References are available for Christian Parenitng. 

Just click on the SR button.

 

 

 

 

 

 

If you want to go through this step the fastest and easiest way, check the problem descriptions below that apply to a specific parenting problem.  The column with the most checks has a box at the bottom.  It will take you to STEP TWO.  For a more in-depth means of defining the parenting problem, go to the section below the boxes.        

SELECT BOXES THAT FIT YOUR SITUATION

Pick the Specific Issue you want to deal with.

Check the words below that describe your Child/Teen on that issue only.

 

Irresponsible

Frustrated

Resentful 

Cheats

Disrupts family 

Moody

Disrespectful

Lies 

Disobedient 

Picked on, bullied

Bitter 

Prejudiced

Interrupts

Nightmares

Stubborn

Insulting

Yells

Loss of friend

Teasing

Intolerant

Oppositional 

Sad, Unhappy

Talks back

Bigoted

Temper tantrums 

Self harming

Defiant

Name calling

Rages

Shy, Timid

Intimidates

Swearing

Breaks Curfew

Disappointed

Bullies 

Promiscuous

 

Check the specific words below that describe how you experience the problem.

 

Annoyance

Empathic

Hurt

Concern

Frustration 

Compassion

Frustrated

Let Down

Anger

Want to help

Betrayed

Disappointed

Resentment

Protective

Resentful

Anxious

 

FAST TRACK

 

To go to Step Two, use the side bar or Fast Track: click the button below the column with the most checks

Fast Tract Links to Step Two When Who? Owns the Problem

 

To Go to Step Three, use the side bar or Fast Track; click the button below the column with the most checks

Fast Tract Links to Step Three Skills for When Who? Owns the Problem

    

 

ADDITIONAL STEPS TO DEFINE THE PROBLEM   

 

Simply write down a problem you have with your Child/Teen.  Focus on one specific issue.

Be specific, concrete and behavioral in your description.

Now, write out the answers to the following questions on a separate sheet of paper.

Be very specific and concrete in your answers.  Your goal is to describe the poblem

so clearly that an actor could act it out from your description.

  • Who was involved? 

  • Where did it happen?

  • When did it happen?

  • What happened?

  • What did you see?

  • What did you hear?

  • What did you feel?

Describe your Childís tone of voice:

Quote exactly what your Child said:

Now, describe the total problem in three sentences or less.

Next, go back and check the problem description boxes in the first part.

Check the category with the most checks. 

Or, you may also go to STEP TWO.

 

 

 

If you need additional help with a live Coach, you can call Earl Friesen, M.A. at (866) 471-1220

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