Although you may have
educated yourself on parenting in various ways,
many parents are still frustrated about knowing what to do with a
specific parenting challenge. E-ParentCoach is designed to coach you
with specific problems unique to your particular family and situation and to be
ready resource you can rely on.
Introduction To e-ParentCoach.com
is a Three-Step Program designed to help you deal with the most common parenting
problems. You will be moving through the following steps.
Defining the Problem. In this step you will fill out a short checklist. This may be all
that is needed in this step. At the bottom of the four
rows, there is a Fast Track Button that will take you to where you need
to go for Step Two. If you do not want to go on the fast track, you can
go to Step Two by clicking Step Two in the Side Bar.
Determine Problem Ownership. This step is very important. It will help
you understand the problem from the standpoint of boundaries. The issue
of boundaries helps us understand our function in dealing with the
Determine Which Skill to Use. This skill is the application phase.
Here you will have choices of skills to use that are appropriate for
each category of problem ownership. Each skill provides a way you can
address the problem effectively.
There are two
ways to move through this process. The longest way is to go through it
step-by-step. You do this by clicking the Step you want to go to on the
Side Bar. This gives you the most information and clarifies
the process as a whole. This is the best way to go through the Three
Steps the first time. The second way is to go directly to the Fast Track. The
Fast Track begins in Step One. At the bottom of the checklists, there
is a button that takes you to the Problem Ownership Category for
that type of problem. This way, you donít have to go through all of
Step Two. Then, at the end of Step Two, you can go to Step Three,
which has the skills you can use to address the parenting challenge.
Once you become
familiar with the three steps you can move quickly through each step.
Scripture References are available for
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If you want to go through this step the
fastest and easiest way, check
the problem descriptions below that apply to a specific parenting
problem. The column with the most checks has a
box at the bottom. It will take you to STEP TWO. For a more in-depth
means of defining the parenting problem, go to the section below the
SELECT BOXES THAT FIT YOUR SITUATION
Pick the Specific Issue you want to deal with.
Check the words below that describe your Child/Teen on that issue only.
Check the specific words below that describe how you experience the
To go to
Step Two, use the side bar or Fast Track: click the button below the
column with the most checks
Fast Tract Links to Step Two
When Who? Owns the Problem
To Go to Step Three, use the side bar or Fast Track; click the button
below the column with the most checks
Fast Tract Links to Step Three
Skills for When Who? Owns the Problem
ADDITIONAL STEPS TO DEFINE THE
write down a problem you have with your Child/Teen. Focus on one
concrete and behavioral in your description.
write out the answers to the following questions on a separate sheet of
specific and concrete in your answers. Your goal is to describe the
clearly that an actor could act it out from your description.
your Childís tone of voice:
exactly what your Child said:
describe the total problem in three sentences or less.
back and check the problem description boxes in the first part.
Check the category
with the most checks.
Or, you may also go to
If you need additional help with a live
Coach, you can call Earl Friesen, M.A. at (866) 471-1220